Our arts, our occupations, our marriages, our religion, we have not chosen, but society has chosen for us. We are parlour soldiers.
We shun the rugged battle of fate, where strength is born. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Next to Resistance, rational thought is the artist or entrepreneurs worst enemy. Bad things happen when we employ rational thought, because rational thought comes from the ego. Instead, we want to work from the Self, that is, from instinct and intuition, from the unconscious.
A child has no trouble believing the unbelievable, nor does the genius or the madman. Its only you and I, with our big brains
and our tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.” – Steven Pressfield, Do the Work
The idea of “being realistic” holds all of us back. From starting a business or quitting a job to dating someone who may not be
our type or moving to a new place – getting “real” often means putting your dreams on hold.
Today, let’s take a step away from rational thought and dare to be bold. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to accomplish but have been afraid to pursue? Write it down. Also write down the obstacles in your way of reaching your goal.
Finally, write down a tangible plan to overcome each obstacle.
The only thing left is to, you know, actually go make it happen. What are you waiting for?
(Author: Matt Cheuvront)
I thought that this question would be difficult. I mean, I’ve worked really hard this year on making a good start on my major dreams, those things that seemed previously far too bold.
I’m close to completing the first draft of my first good novel. (There’s a big difference between your first novel and your first potentially good novel, trust me.)
I’m offering my photography for sale (and as of last week, actually selling it! To strangers! Amazing!)
I’m almost done with culinary school, and already have interest in workshops and menu planning services. Considering that I was barely a cook at all a few years ago, this is a quantum leap forward for me and one that I still can’t believe at times.
What else do I have to accomplish that I’m not already working hard on?
No, I didn’t hear anything, what about you?
MUSIC, damnnit! You know, the dream that you’ve had ever since you were a little girl? The one that involves you learning how to play guitar and then playing it on a stage in front of people?
Alright, I was wrong. There’s a bold dream for you. Bold, wild, and utterly preposterous.
I have always wanted to learn to play an instrument, but never had the money, time, or truth be told, patience, for it. But the dream of one day finding two of those three qualities within myself has never vanished. In fact, the older I get, the more persistent the need grows. Unfortunately, so does the fear that I’m already too old to make this dream happen.
It’s not that I want to be a star, or even an accomplished local act. I’m pretty realistic, even in my bold daydreams. But I do want to learn to play well enough that I can get up on stage at an open mic and not embarrass myself. I want to be able to have pride in my ability to not massacre a well-loved tune. I want to be able to perform a decent cover, maybe even write a song or two of my own one day, just for myself.
In print, it doesn’t look like such a bold goal. But to me, it feels almost insurmountable. There’s no time! I’m already stretched thin as it is! I’ll need lessons! That’s expensive! And what about the instrument?
Never mind the fact that in 3 weeks, I’ll have almost 20 hours a week back to myself that I’ve been spending on culinary classes for the last year. Or that lessons are offered through the Arts Council for a very reasonable fee that we can afford. Or that last pesky detail- I do believe there is a guitar sitting in my closet.
Fine, I guess my bold goal is totally doable. Damn it, is this going to be the year that I knock down all my barriers to happiness, get rid of all my objections, and try to meet all my challenges? What will I do next year?!?
I’m still working on the The Domino Project’s new project: #Trust30. It’s a month-long writing challenge to encourage self-reflection and help you think about your path for the future. I missed a few days there due to a crazy schedule, but I’ve enjoyed it (and missed it!) so much that I’m picking up where I left off and plugging on! Want to join me? You can sign up here.